Massage Services for Women by Men

Massage provides a deeply relaxing and rejuvenating experience, and it has been utilised in diverse cultures throughout history. People have been benefiting from ‘the touch’ for thousands of years because intense pressure on specific areas of the body can relax the muscles, clear internal pathways and remove toxic elements. Massage has traditionally been employed in providing relief from illness, reducing tension and increasing the energy level of its recipients. In recent decades, however, the massage service has expanded to include not only standard massages but also sensual and erotic massages, with many women requesting more physical touch from male masseurs.

It’s a growing interest in the benefits of receiving therapeutic massages from men that reflects a physical and emotional cultural shift whereby women are also comfortable exploring their sensuality, reaching out for new services that speak to their physical and emotional needs. In this article, we explore ideas that address the rise of female customers seeking different forms of touch from men. These include the standard therapeutic massages (no genitals, no thrusting, non-sexual) to the more provocative sensual massage (where exactly where is the dividing line between a sexual or sensual versus a therapeutic massage). After all, where does text messaging stop and verbal intimacy begin, and where does a sexy massage stop shy of full-blown sex? So, from a woman’s perspective, what are the different types of massage services available to her from a male manual therapist, and do these services vary based on the extent of sensual touch?

The Benefits of Massage Therapy for Women

Fundamentally, massage therapy is a practice of health and wellness involving various techniques and methods for manually manipulating muscles and the soft tissues around the body to alleviate stress, provide pain relief and promote rest. For many women, massage can be an integral part of their self-care practice and offers a range of physical and mental health benefits.

1. Physical Health Benefits

Massage therapy is widely recognized for its ability to:

– Relieve muscle tension and pain

– Improve circulation

– Reduce headaches and migraines

– Enhance flexibility and range of motion

– Alleviate chronic pain, such as lower back pain

– Improve sleep quality

And massage can help women with menstrual cramps, pregnancy discomfort or menopausal symptoms.

2. Mental and Emotional Benefits

Beyond physical benefits, massage therapy offers significant mental and emotional benefits:

– Reduces stress and anxiety

– Elevates mood and alleviates depression

– Promotes mental clarity and focus

– Helps in emotional healing by providing a sense of safety and comfort

It has multiple uses, but a big and probably most enjoyable one is that massage therapy is an essential tool for women who face the daily challenges of juggling children, work and the looming sense that they never spend enough time with their partner, their pets, friends, hobbies or themselves.

Types of Massage Services for Women by Men

Although mainstream massage is considered the most popular type of service provided by a male masseur, many women frequently request his services to get a traditional massage from a man. However, massage can be so sensual and intimate that it also leads to increased sexual desire and attraction, which is where women will seek out explicit forms of massage to not only relax them, but to increase bloodflow and pleasure. Here is an overview of the top five types of massage services that women will look for from male masseurs.

1. Swedish Massage

The most widely known massage treatment is Swedish massage. With lingering gliding strokes, kneading and small circular motions, it works on just the uppermost layer of muscle. A women can receive a Swedish massage from a male massage therapist: it is not inherently sensual, yet a good therapist can create an intimate and comfortable space for the client.

2. Deep Tissue Massage

For women who suffer from long-term muscle pain, deep tissue massage is the most appropriate. This is a rub-and-roll massage along the sheets, concentrating on the deep layers of muscle and connective tissue. A male therapist applies swooshing, deep strokes to ‘break up’ muscle knots and alleviate tension. Although not sensual in nature – deep tissue massage involves loads of oil and minimal contact with hands – some women describe the physical intensity and unmistakably focused touch as comforting.

3. Tantric Massage

Tantric massage is a massage used as part of tantric therapies and is a form of sensual massage that originates from ancient Eastern traditions by awakening sexual energy and channeling it throughout the body. A tantric massage for women, by a male therapist, is an experiential way to connect the mind, body and spirit while enhancing intimacy and sensual pleasure.

The therapist incorporates slow, tranquil strokes while stimulating energy points (usually known as the seven chakras), aided by long exhalations through the nose, on the stroke, towards designated points on the body. Now, add to the slow, steady sensual touch thehalucinations (in-depth relaxation), and you will have a tantric massage. It’s not just the strokes that create an erotic sensation. Intimate tantric massage services generally involve a divine sensual touch and an intensely intimate encounter.

Although tantric massage may or may not address the genitals directly, part of its potential is to amplify a woman’s states of sexual pleasure and full-bodied orgasm, and all the associated emotional and spiritual erotic connection. Tantric massage can be used alone or as a complementary strategy to deepen one’s ability to connect to their sexual self or as part of processing traumas around sex-negativity or exploitation.

4. Erotic Massage (Sensual Massage)

Erotic or sensual massage specifically focuses on sexual arousal and pleasure. The male therapist uses a therapeutic and intimate combination of touch in order to melt the client’s sexual energy, thus creating aual moments. Erotic massage is very personalised and customised to a woman’s specific needs and levels of comfort.

Should the client be male, a therapist might use erotic massage as a form of foreplay. This would involve silken oils, low lighting, and soft music to help to create an ultra-arousal experience. The massage would start out light and teasing, touching and then letting go, such as on the back, the arms and legs, and picking up the pace, thoroughly touching erogenous zones such as the inner thighs, breasts and buttocks.

Whether the goal is orgasm or not, for many women a erotic massage can generate a powerful sexual response, often resulting in orgasm. While some might be embarking on a sex-positive sexual adventure, others might be engaging in the practice for the regaining the trust in their body, increasing their sexual esteem or enhancing the bond with their partner.

5. Nuru Massage

A highly popular, and highly erotic, form of body-to-body massage that begins in Japan, Nuru massage can easily cross the line between sensual and erotic. The therapist will usually be naked and, in a Nuru massage, the client is too. The therapist uses an aqueous liquid made of a gelatinous substance (seaweed is a common ingredient) to slide his body over the client’s.

The sliding sensation of the therapist’s body upon the client’s is meant to stimulate erogenous body zones, and the touching stimulates full-body relaxation. The combination of tactile pleasure and the proximal presence of the body of the therapist produces an intimate and erotically arousing encounter. A woman seeking a Nuru massage might expect such an encounter to involve both relaxation, intimacy and erotic arousal.

6. Yoni Massage

Yoni massage is a massage specifically for women, affecting sexual pleasure and spiritual healing through a gentle treatment of the yoni – the Sanskrit word for a woman’s ‘sacred space’ of sexual organs.

The therapist (always a man) will slowly and gently stroke the vaginal entry and the clitoris to the very core of the yoni in this practice known as yoni massage. Yoni is the ancient Sanskrit word for a woman’s vagina. The intent behind the massage is to ‘unblock’ stored tension, trauma and ‘psychosomatic’ or psychological tension that have found a home in the sex organ. Is this irrational? Or can it actually help women achieve more polished orgasms, or even bring them to tears of orgasmic relief? Due to a tragic mix of traditions and misogyny, Eastern cultures have developed, along with other ascetic teachings, a momentous fear of sex. Women in ‘respectable’ families are conditioned to be innately averse to sex and menstruation. In Tibetan Buddhism, semen is regarded as a means of life.

Tantric Buddhism, traditionally an esoteric strain of Buddhism, preaches a form of ‘male monk celibacy’ that involves, among other things, emptying oneself of sexual desires (unless they want to be instantly removed from the monkdom). However, in the late 20th century, influenced by the New Age movement, the West has developed an unhealthy fixation on the ‘sex gurus’ of the East regardless of these taboos. We have long fantasised about the West as a place of sensuous sexual pleasure and spiritual bohemianism, while the East has been seen as the holy grail of eroticism.

For most women, this experience is more than just physical pleasure. It is about restoring their femininity, healing their bodies from past emotional wounds and, in general, improving sexual wellness. Women seeking a yoni massage often have been had have experienced a traumatic event or a shameful experience related to their sexuality, and need to return to reclaiming and honouring their bodies in a place where they are free of judgment and disrespect.

7. Lingam Massage

Historically, a massage specifically for the male sexual organs, lingam massage could be performed on women by men for its erotic and intimate characteristics. During a lingam massage, the therapist uses firm strokes and long deep breathing movements to stimulate the sexual energy of the body.

Women who experience it speak of being able to explore a fuller range of sensuality and level of sensitivity, while the therapist ‘moves’ circulating energy through the body. In some circles, lingam massage with a sexual partner is prescribed as a pleasure-practice offering fertility benefits, mapping sexual energies and sexual healing.

Ethical Considerations and Consent in Sensual and Erotic Massages

It is important to have a conversation about sensual and erotic massage and where the boundaries lie for a client and a therapist in terms of consent. Erotic massage blurrs the boundaries so much that communication and respect for personal boundaries must always take precedent.

1. Clear Communication

Prior to a sensual or erotic massage, the scope of the application and services that will and won’t be offered, along with appropriate boundaries, must be clearly understood. The practitioner should create an atmosphere of trust and encourage the client to give feedback throughout the massage. If any part of the massage makes the client feel uncomfortable or causes pain, he or she must feel free to describe the discomfort to the therapist and have it stopped immediately. Consent must be given at every stage of the process and should be revocable at any time.

2. Respect for Boundaries

A good male therapist will respect his client’s emotional and physical space, so the experience is not only enjoyable but respectful of her comfort level, whether we are talking about massage on his table or more intimate work on his couch.

3. Legality and Professionalism

In some locations, legal requirements might require that such services be provided under a licence, although it’s ultimately the client and the consenting therapist that has to be legally compliant with the regulation of such services. Good ethical massage therapists will run a business study, and give regard to the rectitude of dealing and a concern for the safety, comfort and wellbeing of the client.

The Role of Male Therapists in Women’s Wellness

Though male therapists are often stereotyped as less competent providers of nurturing care than women, the stereotype is changing. In fact, more and more women choose male MTs, since he has an energy and presence he brings that can help to support a woman in her endeavours towards being well.

Male massage can provide a strong but gentle touch capable of inspiring healthy healing, even gratifying ecstatic experiences, for women. Given our opportunity – and allowed to develop inside the privacy of our massage rooms – we (male therapists) can be of substantial service to women who want the health-making benefits of massage from a male practitioner. Whether we offer therapeutic massage of a professional and objective nature or sensual massage of a more personal, sensual kind, our ability to offer women healing and exploratory touch capable of promoting greater relaxation and pleasure will reach its individual potential in a private massage setting.

Conclusion

These massages for women, delivered by men, have expanded their range to accommodate a variety of needs: some only for relaxation, as they seek to quiet a harried mind, or the relief of pain throughout the body; others become more sensuous and erotic. Whatever the outcome, most of us women can benefit from the pleasure of touch, as massage therapists look after us. When there is consent given, respect accorded, and communication open, these services can be a powerful gift for women’s physical, emotional and sexual wellbeing.